How To Be A Pollyanna

How To Be A Pollyanna

How To Be A Pollyanna

… A positive attitude that promotes wellness.

In our World today, filled with people with roller-coaster emotions because of so many societal ills and hiccups. Many experience mental ill health and mental disorders irrespective of their age, gender, social or economic status. HOW CAN WE MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND BE THE DIFFERENCE.

This brings us to a discovery “BE A POLLYANNA”

Who is a POLLYANNA?

A Pollyanna refers to a person who is excessively optimistic or always sees the positive side of situations, sometimes to the point of being overly idealistic or naive. A Pollyanna is someone who always maintain a cheerful outlook despite facing challenges.

The term originated from the title character in the novel “Pollyanna” by Eleanor H. P.

I strongly believe that a Pollyanna kind of attitude and personality can help us greatly overcome lots of negative ills and challenges facing us.

It’s a healthy attitude that combats negative thoughts and ills.

You can start by:

  • Gratitude: Focus on what you’re thankful for. Regularly expressing gratitude can shift your perspective.
  • Solution-Oriented Thinking: Instead of dwelling on problems, focus on finding solutions. This proactive approach can enhance optimism.
  • Surround Yourself Positively: Spend time with optimistic and supportive people. Their outlook can influence yours.
  • Learn from Challenges: View challenges as opportunities for growth. Each difficulty can teach valuable lessons.
  • Remember, it’s okay to acknowledge difficulties, but the goal is to approach them with a positive and constructive mindset.
  • Humor: Find humor in situations when appropriate. Laughter can be a powerful tool for shifting perspectives.

Hindrance to Becoming a Pollyanna

Certain factors can hinder one from adopting a Pollyanna-like attitude:

  • Realism vs. Optimism Balance: While optimism is beneficial, it’s crucial to maintain a realistic perspective. Overly idealistic views may lead to overlooking important challenges.
  • Ignoring Negative Emotions: Being overly positive shouldn’t mean suppressing or ignoring genuine negative emotions. It’s essential to acknowledge and address them.
  • Unrealistic Expectations: Setting unrealistically high expectations may lead to disappointment. It’s important to balance optimism with a practical understanding of what’s achievable.
  • External Factors: External circumstances, such as persistent challenges or negative environments, can make it challenging to maintain a Pollyanna-like outlook.
  • Ignoring Critical Feedback: Blindly dismissing constructive criticism can hinder personal growth. A Pollyanna attitude should include a willingness to learn and adapt.
  • Social Pressure: Feeling pressured to conform to a constantly positive image can be stressful. Authenticity is important, even if it involves acknowledging difficulties.

Remember, adopting a positive mindset doesn’t mean ignoring reality or suppressing genuine emotions. Balance and authenticity are key.

Benefits of Being a Pollyanna

Embracing a Pollyanna-like attitude can offer several benefits:

  • Improved Mental Health: Focusing on the positive can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, contributing to better mental well-being.
  • Enhanced Resilience: Optimistic individuals often bounce back more quickly from setbacks and are better equipped to handle challenges.
  • Increased Motivation: A positive outlook can provide motivation and enthusiasm, making it easier to pursue goals and overcome obstacles.
  • Better Physical Health: Optimistic individuals may experience health benefits, as a positive mindset is associated with lower levels of stress hormones and improved immune function.
  • Longevity: Some studies suggest that optimistic individuals may live longer, possibly due to the positive impact on health behaviors and stress management.
  • Creativity and Problem-Solving: A positive mindset can enhance creativity and improve problem-solving skills, as it encourages a more open and flexible approach to challenges.
  • Emotional Intelligence: Optimistic individuals often exhibit higher emotional intelligence, allowing them to navigate social situations with empathy and understanding.

In conclusion, it is worthwhile to know and note that a Pollyanna is an optimist and realist as well.

 

 

From Hobbies to Personal Effectiveness

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Transforming Positive Habits and Hobbies into Learning Power Learning is the process we go through to acquire new knowledge, skills, attitudes or values. We tend to think of learning only in relation to formal study but we are learning all the time through our experiences. Understanding how we learn is a critical building block to personal effectiveness. Everyone is different and some of us appear more effective at learning than others. Curiosity contributes alot to learning by making sense of trial and error, determination and learning from experience. We sometimes forget about some apparently ‘unconscious’ aspects of learning process. Understanding our hidden skills will help us to be a more effective learner in all aspects of our life. Positive habits and hobbies that we formed have the ability to lead our actions into efficiency and can help our learning power domain to exploring beyond the simple styles of doing things which we have mastered overtime. Habits and hobbies here focus on a broad range of behaviours, beliefs and preferences of the ways we learn in different situations, like, how we respond to new tasks, information, ideas and people. By responding to actuality against planned activities, we present ourselves positively to others and we show sensitivity to their needs by unconsciously obtaining their commitment. The following are real life simulations which we carry out daily without knowing their full import on our personal effectiveness and impact on others. Real-Life Experiences If we love keeping and grooming pets – it portrays us: As someone who shows interest in others welfare, we care! As a time-keeper, As punctual in meeting up with schedules and shifts, As humane, empathic and tender in relationship. If we have ears for news, love watching documentaries, love memoirs or history – it shows we are: A curious person, Willing to learn new skills, Methodical in resolving issues, Analytical in approach, Logical from the beginning to an end of a task, Deploying different techniques in arriving at result. If we love to cook especially for multitudes – it may imply that we: Could organize and prioritize our preparation and can keep to plan, Are willing to do things for other people, Could stick to a plan or a set of instructions, Pay attention to minute and detailed manual, Could be time conscious. If we are always regular and punctual in keeping appointments – this shows that we: Could use a diary to remind and organize ourselves of important dates and times, Could stay motivated, even in the face of challenges, Could stick to a laid down plan and act on information or instruction in a timely manner. By participating in entertainments and games, particularly team sports – it shows that we: Could play a defined role within a team work, Could listen to instructions and advice from a team lead, Could understand the importance of practicing and preparing before commencement of tasks, Are alert and ready at a short notice, Would enjoy celebrating team’s success and accomplishment, Understand that a good team relies on all the members working together, Believe in strategic planning. If we tend to garden – this shows that we: Could work constructively on our own, Are creative and could use our imagination, Could look after tools and equipment that we work with, Could take time out and reflect positively on things that are happening around us, Are meek, tender and patience, Are Hands-On and a practical person. If we have been mobilizing our community – it shows: We have leadership ability in us, We could co-ordinate plans and people, People around us trust us with responsibility for tangible results, We are a rallying point, We are opinion moulders. If we are living with other people amicably – it is likely we: Could work within stipulated ground rules, Have skills such as negotiation in order to help relationship work well, Could cope with challenging behaviour and not lose our cool, Could show consideration and respect for other people, Could speak up on behalf of others less able to do so themselves. If we travel around quite a lot, perhaps with a small group of people – this could mean: Ability to coping with many changes and adapt to them especially in new environments, Ability to working within a system that was new to us, Ability to use a diary or other method of reminding ourself of important dates and times, Ability to sticking to a plan and act on others advice. Personal Effectiveness of Self on Others in a Work Place Personal effectiveness describes how our behaviour impact and influence people around us. We exert this influence in the way we communicate and interact. Underpinning this communication and interaction are the things that are going on in our bodies, hearts and minds. The need for personal effectiveness applies in our daily social interaction with people we relate with at all levels in the society especially in a work place, whereas staff can exercise discretion in their work. The need for personal effectiveness applies to many jobs in any particular organisational level. It is a life skill set transferable between job roles, which can be acquired through practice. Impediments to Personal Effectiveness In order to know what is right to do, we need clarity. It is clarity of purpose that allows us to figure out what is truly important. The biggest enemy to clarity of purpose is noise. Noises are impediments and distractions like procrastination, lack of self confidence, running away from responsibility, fear of failure, low self-esteem, failure in taking initiatives and taking no actual action. Way Forward Knowing what is right to do is just half the question. It is useless to know what we are supposed to do if we do not actually do them. To do what is right, we need to overcome distractions to do otherwise. All distractions can be summarized as short-term pleasures. So, the action we need to take is ignoring short-term pleasures. Since the things we are supposed … Read more